A kiss dating goodbye
Church and family are the “real life settings” where “we’re much more likely to see who a person really is.” “Though courtship has a serious intent,” Harris writes in “Boy Meets Girl,” “it can be low-pressure and casual when it begins.” (This characterization is unpersuasive considering how involved families and the church community are in the courtship process.) Fathers in particular have a deep role in courtship in Harris’s framework. When a man wants to pursue a woman in courtship, he should first ask her father for permission to court.Indeed, the woman may be the last person to know of a man’s interest.Harris praises these actions as models of oversight and guidance in courtship.
Fathers have the ability to end relationship before it begins. In these cases, Harris advises men “don’t undermine his leadership—honor it even if it means waiting longer or doing things differently than you had planned.” Families also provide oversight thought the courtship.
He touches briefly on friendship, only because it is the prelude to courtship.
The basis of friendship is “mutual interest” and a desire to enjoy those commonalities together.
If you were a conservative Christian in the 1990s and early 2000s, chances are you owned a copy of the bestselling “I Kissed Dating Goodbye,” by Joshua Harris.
Harris was a celebrity within the homeschool community: a homeschool graduate, son of a prominent homeschool advocate, and the editor of a magazine for homeschoolers.